For many single women, dating can be difficult and disappointing. Phil offers advice to get through the dating maze and help find your Mr. He returned to the The Early Show to talk with co-anchor Rene Syler about how to do just that. Phil says that dating is "simply one of the most inefficient, non-productive, haphazard, hit-or-miss ways to try to achieve one of the most important objectives of your entire life."How so? When you decide 'I want to find a life partner, I want to get out there and make it happen,' nobody has a plan," he says. Phil says: "I want you to really spend some time consciously making eye contact with him. "I would rather four of them say they didn't like her, and one guy say I really liked her. His new book, "Love Smart: Find the One You Want — Fix The One You Got," Dr. Look right at him."As Wendy establishes eye contact, the date says, "We should look at the menu. " "I can't honestly say I was paying enough attention," Wendy says."Say I was paying more attention to you than the menu," prods Dr. The worst thing in the world you can do is if you go to a party and you meet four or five guys, and the next day not one of them can remember you. So we freshened her up a little bit and then put her out there."I said 'Let's make some eye contact, ask some meaningful questions.' You don't care what his sign is. "She described herself as the worst wall flower ever, with drab clothes, she would look at the ground, never got a second date — ever.Seven percent of communication is what you say, and the other 93 percent is non-verbal.That 93 percent screams your “personal truth,” what you really believe about yourself when nobody is looking."But one of the things you need to do are minimal encouragers, where you let the other person know, I'm hearing what you're saying.I'm interested in what you're saying, with what you're doing right now.
People react to how you present yourself — so pay attention to the statement you’re making.They will say virtually anything to get a girl naked and have no conscience about what lies and misrepresentations they tell to get there.They are predators and will move on, even if they like the woman.The Smother Brother These guys are overwhelmed by a need for control.For example, they might tell a girlfriend how to dress, or where she is and is not allowed to go."So it's like, well, maybe somebody will introduce me to somebody, or maybe I'll just turn the corner and bump into somebody or I'll go to a bunch of clubs and it's loud and smoky and you can't hear. Phil acted as a coach for a woman while she was on a date. " Wendy asks her date."I live in Redondo Beach, but I moved here 2 1/2 years ago from Chicago," the date replies. If you are an environmental non-event, are you going to be lonely."Since most women can't have Dr.