It didn’t take him long to ask me to send him a “saucy photo,” (his words) and it didn’t take long for me to tell him that just wasn’t my thing. Days later, Jennifer Lawrence and over 100 other women were exposed across the Internet. He sent me an almost full frontal—via Snapchat—back. I’m basically a Victorian, but I thought we might be able to find a happy medium in the modern era. Two minutes in, or perhaps when he asked me if I wanted to leave the restaurant and go take a bath together, I realized we were looking for different things.I turned my cheek when he went to kiss me goodbye, and was pleased there would be no more penis pictures in my life. Department of Justice statistics suggest that 850,000 American adults—mostly women—are targets of cyber-stalking each year, and 40 percent of women have experienced dating violence delivered electronically.Riccardo G.’s profile on Couch Surfing.com, the website that partners intrepid wanderers with willing hosts, notes that he lives in the “best neighborhood to go out and have drinks,” that he offers a “cozy/clean/nice sofa/couch” and that he’ll even let you bring your “small dog, if you just can’t live without him.” He describes himself as “amazing, outgoing, funny, smart” and says his interests include friends, eating, drinking, the gym and puppies.His photos show the good-humored Latin American native — dark, handsome, and fit — in exotic destinations around the world, from Cairo to Capri.After ignoring a couple text messages from him, I told him I was busy, but kept it polite. It was a close-up shot of him masturbating for ten seconds. And most importantly, it felt like a threat.“Unwanted sexual contact online—it’s something we take seriously,” said Scott Berkowitz, the founder and president of the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network. A recent study by the Pew Research Center found 40 percent of adult Internet users have experienced harassment online, with young women enduring particularly severe forms of it.Thirty-eight percent of women who had been harassed online reported the experience could be described as extremely or very upsetting to them.
Both men and women are unlikely to message even after mutually liking another profile, a new study has found.
Nowhere does the profile state explicitly that if you are an attractive female traveler, you might skip the couch entirely and wind up in Riccardo’s bed, but it’s a good possibility.
In eight months using the service, Riccardo, who is 32 and works for an ad agency, has let eight visitors crash at his apartment, of whom he’s hooked up with five, for a 62 percent “success rate.” If you count the additional two who climbed into bed with him for a cuddle and then fell asleep, the percentage climbs even higher.
Researhcers set up 14 fake Tinder profiles in London, half were female and half male.
They automatically liked everyone within a 100 mile (160km) radius, and noted how many they matched with, and then how many sent messages.